People always say that if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all. As with most black and white phrases, I tend to disagree in certain circumstances. There's always a gray area where the saying is thrown out the window.
Now, don't get me wrong, I fully understand and support the notion that you shouldn't be mean for the sake of it or that you should try your hardest to be nice, courteous, and respectful. That even extends to keeping things to yourself because it would hurt someone's feelings or cause an argument and there wouldn't be much of a purpose behind you voicing your opinion.
However, there are those other times that people don't like to mention. Sometimes, you can't simply spare the rod - or rather, shouldn't. It might make you the bad guy to speak up and it might rub people the wrong way, but it's perfectly justified in my mind if it comes from a place of love rather than cruelty. That is what Out on Limbs is about, in essence - being a voice to the voiceless and shouting out the opinions that people may not want to hear but it would serve them right to hear it, all in the interest of improving society or specific individuals. Once in a while, it's fun to make a cruel joke or something of the sort, and used sparingly (and of course, not TOO cruel), it's ok, but you'll never see posts here that are simple hate-mongering or spreading a toxic mentality. I can be harsh, blunt, and oftentimes difficult to listen to, but the purpose is to enlighten and to entertain.
This is where some people get it wrong. You should be as honest as possible in the nicest way possible and the second half of that is where some people get it wrong. Freedom of speech doesn't necessarily mean you have the right as a human being to be hurtful to others. This is even worse off when what you're saying is either flat out wrong, completely uncalled for, or just rude.
|The racist words she would have said if it weren't for that tape...|
Sometimes, people need to be told their flaws. Companies ask for your opinion feedback not just because they want to hear only the positive things but also because they want to hear the negative so they can improve on it. If nobody says anything because it's not nice to complain or point out faults, then nothing will be fixed, correct? The entirety of this divide is based on the difference between constructive criticism and flat out bitching or spreading hatred and almost everyone even as a child can tell them apart. It's up to you to be an adult and to handle the situations that come in front of you. Do you keep things to yourself because that will be the best manageable outcome, do you speak your mind and hope to fix the problems in the most humane way possible, or do you foolishly spew filth for the sake of venting your frustrations? I think even if people don't necessarily want to admit it, they know deep down that you shouldn't always bottle things up because that isn't always the best route to go.
So I'm leaving you with two options here: 1) you agree with this article and leave your praise, or 2) if you disagree with it and have nothing nice to say about it, you can shut up. Have a nice day ;)